Tuesday, July 5, 2011
If momma ain't happy...
I've been wanting to share some thoughts on my wife's progress but haven't really known what to say. How do you describe the magic of pregnancy? I'm only looking at it through another's eyes. I'm not qualified to tell you how she feels. I can only tell you how I think she feels. That's what this blog is about. How I see things developing. I want you to see her from my eyes. I do want to tell you what I think I see. Don't shoot me if I say something that I shouldn't. I usually do.
I'm a grown man so let's be honest here. When a woman is pregnant, nobody wants to hear how Daddy is doing. He's not the one with humans growing in him. I'm a reasonable guy and I can understand that. I have great respect for a woman's ability to do this fantastic thing. This miracle. Us guys will never understand the responsibility, the bond, the incredible journey that a mother and child travel. We can only hope to be supportive. I want to talk about Mommy.
Karyn is a fantastic wife and mother. She is my rock. She's the sensible one. I can tell she's nervous and uncomfortable and tired. She's holding up well though. It's been almost 2 weeks since we were last at the doctor's office. She has an appointment tomorrow but I don't think it's one that I care to attend. There are a couple of those. Any daddy will tell you that. This won't be one of the glamorous ultrasound appointments. Nope. Anyway, we hope to hear how she's gaining the good kind of weight and that she's plenty hydrated. She'll need twice the amount of blood in her body as she would normally carry around. It takes a lot of water to make that happen. We've tried to keep her out of the sun as much as possible. Over the 4th of July weekend, we spent quite a bit of time outdoors. I could tell, at times, Karyn was drained. We tried to take short trips and keep her in the shade as much as possible. She's a very independent soul and doesn't want to seem like a bother. She doesn't see herself like we see her. I know how I feel when I look at her. I see how my sons look at her. An expecting mother is something very special. There's nothing more precious. She's always a gift to me but I see it now more than ever.
Had the idea to ask Mommy a couple questions and put it here.
Me: How do you feel?
Karyn: Physically: Tired... I get wore out quickly and feel I'm holding others up. I went to Kroger the other day on lunch to grab a couple things. I've done it a million times with twice the list and no problems. But by the time I got back to my car, I was out of breathe and had to sit for a minute. I'm the get it and go type, and don't even think about stopping me in my tracks. So there's nothing more frustrating right now. Emotionally: Stressed out. We're having to adjust in every area of our lives; so as much as I'd like, I don't see the end in sight. I'm also nervous. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know risks are higher with 2. All I can do is pray.
Me: How are things different this time from last pregnancy?
Karyn: I was never sick the first time. I had it pretty easy. I randomly get nauseous now. I was also planning for 1, not 2, so my thought process wasn't as focused on price.
Me: What's something you would want to say to the babies right now?
Karyn: Hurry up! Seriously though, I can't wait to meet you and I hope I am taking good care of you. As crazy as things have been; I know without a doubt it will be more than worth it. I just hope it is just as much for you too. I hope I will be able to provide everything you need and deserve.
Posted by Jason Smith at 3:25 PM